I asked him to write me a letter for valentine's day, I still don't have one…?
He said he has a hard time expressing emotion face to face (he is an emotional void), we met online and he used to shower me in affection, so I told him to write me a letter and say all these things. He never did write it, said he didn't hvae time.
HIs nan sent him a letter he got yesterday, and within an hour he was up writing her a letter back. Now I know his nan deserves her letter but so do I, its been over a month!
Do I just chalk this up to not being on his totem pole of priorities again?
We have been living together for almost four years, so how is that not real?
No, I told my 'fellow' exactly what I wanted, not a poem. He used to write me notes and letters and even poems all the time, this is not new for him.
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AnswerDude April 5th
REAL relationships are in person!
Marina April 5th
I think you should chalk it up to the fact that you shouldn't have to ask someone for a declaration of their love for you. You sure as hell shouldn't be buying that he's incapable of expressing emotion face to face. If you feel it, you show it. Period.
Katie M April 5th
He's not willing to put the effort into the relationship that you need. If he was, you would have got that letter a month ago. I think you might be expecting more than he's capable of giving.
MICHAEL April 5th
Some men are uncomfortable with regard to expressing sentiment in writing; and, in addition, it may be that your fellow thought that what you really want is something along the lines of a love poem, which may not be his forte. GET IT?
dtitus1304 April 5th
He has you now so why shower you with affection anymore? Showering you with affection is a man's way of getting you to like him. Once he has you, there is no need to do that anymore.
Why do women always think that a relationship never changes? It is work to keep that same level of attraction and affection. Your relationship is running it's normal course. This guy isn't a jerk, he is just a guy.
Katie April 5th
That's not really something you can tell someone to do. If he's writing you a letter because he feels obligated, it's not from the heart and he's just telling you things you want to hear.
If you can't handle him being an "emotional void," maybe you should find someone who meets your needs better. But keep in mind, actions speak louder than words. If you know how he feels about you based on his actions, what more do you need?
mktmonitor April 5th
What did you do for him on V Day?
stixy_stixy April 5th
You need to make some requirements. Demand respect. At this point in the relationship it may be a little late for that. Oh well, you'll know for next time.
KJ April 5th
hey, i remember you.
i forget names, questions, etc etc, but i never forget an @ss.
grammie April 5th
He is not committed to you. I'm surprised you haven't gotten the hint "No letter on Valentines Day" And you have been living together for four years? Time to wake up, smell the coffee "its burning" and move on.
Gordon Shumway April 5th
Words are just words. He can tell you how much he loves you but it will be worthless if he doesn't show you. If he does, that's what counts. You don't need some letter. How much would it really mean if you had to ask him for it, anyway? That's not an expression of love. It's a homework assignment.
somethingelse April 5th
begging for romantic displays of affection and affirmation from a man is so weak!! No wonder he didn't want to write it he felt badgered to do it. People don't write love poems and letters because someone TELLS them to. They do it out of a inward desire to express their love outwardly. Four years he's put up with you? What a sucker!
Macktee April 5th
You asked him for it. Now it's a have to do instead of a want to do for him. If you have to do it it becomes work.
Jarimmiha April 5th
If you are not talking anymore – he doesn't work – you have no love life – he
is not really being part of your life –
If you have tried everything that you can emagin to get him out of his depression & he just doesn't wan to to anything about anything.
Isn't it time to call it quits ?????
It sounds like you two are just poison to each other after four years, move on.
Sorry but I was there one time & the only thing that got me out of it ( I am sorry to say) was we both moved on, it was only years later that I figured out how wrong I was & wish I could tell her.
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